If you have been through a programme of rehabilitation and are now back home in recovery, you will want to make sure you are avoiding things that could trigger a relapse. But what can you do if your partner is still drinking heavily or taking drugs? How can you make him or her see that they have a problem?
As you may well know yourself, denial is a very common problem for addicts. Your partner may not be able to see that he or she has a problem. This individual may have been focused on getting you help for so long that he or she simply did not realise they had developed a problem. While the family members of recovering addicts often do everything in their power to stop their loved one from relapsing, some may not even be aware that their actions are affecting the recovery of their partner because they cannot think straight.
Your partner may have already had an addiction when you started your treatment, or he or she may have developed an addiction as a knock-on effect of dealing with the stress of your problem. Whatever the reason, he or she needs help. But are you the best person to be dealing with this right now?
Speak to Your Counsellor
If you are worried about your partner’s addiction, then talk to your therapist or counsellor. You will need addiction advice and guidance on how to handle this situation. You are in a very precarious position right now because you need to be focusing on your recovery and not worrying about your loved one’s problems. You cannot force the issue but you can play a supporting role if you are strong enough.
Your counsellor may be able to suggest ways to help your loved one, but the first and most important step is to get your partner to recognise that a problem exists.
Get Other Family Members to Help
If your partner’s drinking or drug taking is causing problems in his or her life, other family members may be able to encourage him or her to accept that addiction is a reality. Your partner may think that you are overreacting because of your own past problems but if another family member addresses the issue, the affected person may be more willing to acknowledge the problem.
Once your partner has recognised that addiction is a problem, he or she should be encouraged to accept the situation and get help. There are many fantastic organisations offering help for addiction, and don’t forget that you are the best person to recommend a good treatment centre.
If your partner does not want to see the same counsellor as you, then he or she can get in touch with an organisation such as Addiction Helper. We have a team of expert advisors waiting to take your call and we can offer independent advice on where to get the best treatment.
Our counsellors and therapists are experienced in all types of addiction and can provide a comprehensive assessment before making a referral. Referrals are based on the needs of the individual as there is no one size fits all treatment for addiction, as you are probably all too aware of.
Depending on the severity of the addiction, your partner may be advised to get residential or outpatient treatment. We have an extensive database of up-to-date treatments and providers, and we will ensure your partner gets the help that he or she so desperately needs.
For more information on how Addiction Helper can help, contact us today.