There are numerous reasons some people become addicted to drugs or alcohol, but it often develops when a person takes these substances in a bid to numb the pain of a stressful situation. It may be to block out negative emotions from an abusive relationship or to help cope with the loss of a loved one.
The individual may begin taking drugs or alcohol because it allows him or her to escape the negative feelings they are experiencing. He or she then prefers to be under the influence of these substances than not and, before long, will be using more and more, which inevitably leads to addiction. It is a vicious cycle that affects many people in the UK.
Peter Gunn is one such person. Peter was adopted at nine months old and, although he has had an excellent relationship with his adoptive mother Miriam, he has struggled with the idea of being rejected by his birth mother all those years ago.
When Peter was five, his adoptive parents divorced, which hit him hard. He says, “It just felt like another rejection.”
His older brother was also adopted and, at the age of seventeen, he went to work in the US. With the help of Miriam, he managed to locate his birth mother in America and learned about his German birth father as well.
This spurred Peter on to try to find out about his birth parents. He accessed his file at the age of eighteen and learned that his birth mother’s name was Daphne. He also discovered a letter written by Daphne explaining that she would have had to cut ties with her family had she kept her baby. Peter was devastated as he felt his birth mother had chosen her family over her son.
Peter began using drugs and drinking alcohol, and he says that this led to a cycle of addiction, which stayed with him even when he moved to the US in 2005. He said, “It’s been a long hard road, I have had a lot of ups and a lot of downs. I got to a crossroads in my life, and I took the wrong path.”
However, with the love and support of Miriam, he has managed to kick his addiction. Miriam re-mortgaged her home to pay for Peter to attend a programme of rehabilitation, which included a five-day detox and therapy for thirty days. After successfully completing this programme, Peter knew he had to make a change in his life.
Peter decided to try to find his birth mother again and contacted ITV show Long Lost Family to get their help. The show managed to track Daphne down and when the pair finally met, she explained how she had kept her baby for nine months before realising she could not provide him with the life he deserved. She said, “If I had any chance at all I would have never given him up.”
Peter admitted that these words were all he wanted to hear. He now has a relationship with his birth mother and her family, and he is planning to move to Ireland with his partner and adoptive mother Miriam so that they can all be closer together.
Peter’s story shows how important family addiction support can be in terms of addiction recovery. If you or a loved one is suffering from an addiction, contact Addiction Helper today. We can provide you with information about treatments available.
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Source: Herts and Essex Observer